Expectation- A reflection of my life

What I learn from my little life about the “Expectation” is the basis of all the relations, love of human beings, like

“how my husband should be?”  and the expectation of all human being is who will fulfil my life with happiness, cherish with love and prosperity in entire life.

“How should my wife should be? who is always devoted to me my entire life,”

“how my children should be?  who will always serve me, obey my order and follow my path and guideline”

human always able those from whom he gets love, affection and eventually the person who fulfills his expectations, but he forgets that the only rule of “expectation” is to be disbanded, and fall into pieces and expectations always hurts and create dislikes, sorrow and unpleasant situation. In any case if any human genuinely and sincerely tries to fulfill others expectation or desire, he unable to fulfill the same. 

This is because expectations of human beings originate from the brain and no human being or person knows, anticipates and read about others expectation, desire and hope that has other persons brain or mind. And where hatreds and dislikes take birth which later become struggle in the relationship and the whole relationship transformed into conflict. Unhappiness and sadness become the path of the relation. everyone starts complaining about others, they blame each other to understand each other. 

Do you think expectation should the basis of any relation? or the relation should be on the basis of relations only. Think and comment ? 

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An amazing day with friends to explore of different places in Bharuch

(Photo-The Forgotten Palace of Bharuch)

Sometime the way you thought never happens in life. If you imagine or wish to do something it never happen and what i experienced in case that happened its not in the line you imagine or thought. 

My wife is not here with me at Bharuch, she went to appear her B.Ed exam, am feeling lonely and isolated. My Friend Anurag is also not here with whom i can share and spent time so i thought this "Shiv Ratri" would be my one of the unpleasant day not alike the last year where My wife was there with me and Raman came from Gandhinagar and we spent lot good time. 

Yes, you rightly figured it out the day was not the day i imagined. It was become one of the amazing day of my life where we explored various places in Bharuch. In all this Pradipbhai played a great role he is the one who made my day along with Hardipbhai, Ajitbhai, Zalabhai. 

I was so mesmerized to heard Pradipbhai, we talked about lot many things about society, beliefs, habits, customs, traditional beliefs and spirituality. At some point of discussion, i felt that he understands the mythology very deeply. He is not the one who blindly follow all the beliefs and traditions. He also believes that there is always a rational reason behind every belief or practice of Hindu religion. During discussion, i got to know that Bharuch has its own place in History and i spent more than 2 years and never visited so we all decided to visit different places of Bharuch. 

As per our plan, we visited Nageshwar Temple, Zhadeshwar  and we went for a boat ride. and it was fun and memorable.

(Photo - During Boating in Narmada River)

During the discussion, I got to know that Bharuch is one of the ancient city in India after Baranashi and Bharuch was formerly known as Broach. According to the "Skanda Purana" the sage "Bhirgu" came to this place sitting on a tortoise. The tortoise is known as Kachchha (कच्छ) in Sanskrit. Hence the place was named 'Bhrigukachchha' and latter the city known as 'Bharukachch', which was later abridged to Bharuch. 

We also discuss that shiv means "Atom" - the smallest unit of the everything. The smallest unit has a similar configuration as "Universe" that refers that "Shiv" is the origin of every living and non living and the end of everything. Is not this Amazing !!!!

Shiv Ratri is the day that women to visit to Shivling and worship Lord Shiva for wellbeing of their life. I also understood one of the interesting fact  every Jyotirling produces radiation (which simbolizes as the third eye of lord Shiv) and to control the effect of that radiation cow milk used to pour above the shivling and moon has power to absorb the radiation thus the moon places in the head of the Shiva to minimize the effect of radiation.

As some beliefs that Women should not visit nearer to Jyotirling. and now i understood may be the impact of ration from the Jyotirling affect the reproductive organ of female so the people of traditional thoughts discouraged women to visit near Jyotirling. 

A thank you note is not enough to acknowledge the day with Pradip ji and friends but i understood onething the things you plan never goes as it is. Almighty has its own plan so be happy and healthy . 

Few photographs that we clicked 

(Photo- the ancient Civil Hospital) 

(Photo- The Palace) 

(Photo- The bike ride in the bank of Narmada River)

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Unleash Happiness...

Happiness, a feeling of an individual satisfaction. Now a days everyone struggled to find happiness in their life. It has observed that people from the forest/rural are more happy than the people from the concrete forest. 

Maximum individual spend their time in either functional relations or personal relations. In both the time, the rural individual spend their time with 100 percent commitment without expecting the result where the other spend their time with high expectation to earn more respect, money, prestige and in this fight he loose the happiness. 

Sometimes, we create an opinion based on our experience and the situation where in reality may be the case is too different from the opinion. 

The real happiness lies within self, we don't respect and recognize what we have we always find a way to observe others what they have and we don't which leads to an unhappy situation.

I have seen people those have nothing but still they are happy with a beautiful smile in their faces. I have visited so many tribal areas of India where the people are happy however my experience with the urban people have different although they have everything what they need still they have guild not to have the upper version.

So unleash your happiness what you have and don't feel unfortunate what other have. The question is "have you had enough to live what you have ?" "Have you received what you contributed/ the efforts that has been given?". If the answer is "Yes" you should happy like the millions of people in rural area. If the Answer is "No" still you be happy and work hard to get. Your sorrowfulness/ sad/ unhappy/miserable situation forced you to be in "COMA" where you will never out.
Be happy and stay blessed :)       

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Kanku and Kunar (कंकू & कुंअर)

It was a routine day for all the students, the school bell rang; kids are very hurry to enter the school gate of wi-fi enabled international primary school. All parents from the BMWs, AUDI, and Mercedes are shaking their hand towards the beautiful kids with a smile whereas the kids are not interested in entering the school as they have not yet finished their homework as they were busy in the family parties with their parents. The parents felt proud to have such life, but again Mercedes people felt jealousy and angry when they see that the nearby neighbour came with Jaguar/Hi-Class Audi. It clearly indicates that the parents were only come to school not only to drop their kid in the school, but they want to convey other neighbours how rich they. As like school dress, all mothers does not put on one single outfit, they show off their own makeup, new jewellery, new outfits, shoes obviously new car.

The same day also repeats for the students of Indian Government Primary School. It was also the same routine life for them, for the poor kids to come school by walking without even a slipper after finishing all the household work instead of homework assigned by teachers. The eldest kid, who is studying on class 6th, is mostly responsible for cooking for all the members including parents &siblings. They are responsible for feeding the little child who is 7-9 months old. Father regularly goes outside for searching of work and mother goes out for her daily household works. So the kids are habituated for this type of work. When the mother is ill, again all the responsibility lies on the eldest girl of the family, they have to finish all the household work and the work of her mother and   After all this, they came to the school very happily and gracefully without any complaint. Every day the kids are so busy in such life they forget to play, dance, sing, and think innovatively.

Today is a different day for me; recently I shifted my room from Saundarya 444, Sargasan to Shyam Shukan, near PDPU. My home is dirty and full of dust. One of my friends, helped me a lot to make my home lively, instead he did everything to make my home lively is the right way to say. As usual practice, we decided to keep a maid to keep my house clean, so said the same maid who was working for my friend. But today, she was ill, so she sent her kids (Kanku and Kunar) for my household work. Kanku is the eldest daughter who studies in class 6th and Kunar (the second eldest daughter studies in class 5th. Both of them put on school dress when I saw them, the younger one make a choice to pick the broom and started sweeping my china marble floor and the elder one took the bucket of water with the liquid lizol and the cloth to clean the floor after the sweeping. Both are so aligned with their work, as they were trained for a long time, as they are the master, of doing such things. During this sweeping and cleaning activity, I tried to communicate with them and I was shocked to listen to some of their sentences. I thought it was a disbelief of my mind but after a detail discussion I was clear that it was not my imagination of my brain as I was fully awake and listen to their words. Both the girls are going to marry in few days. In this age, when both of them not fully aware about what the marriage says, what this all about is, what happen to the studies. They are the toppers of their schools Koba Kanya Sala.

Suddenly, I preferred to stop talking this matter and my imagination took me in somewhere in the School of Galathra Primary School. I remembered a girl named Zinal Parmal who studied in class 7 in the previous year. She used to come and showed her interest in the studies and said to my CEO, that She want to become a collector. And she thanked us for all the intervention we did for their school. I met her alone and try to understand the situation, her father died two years back and he want her to become a collector. So she trying hard to become a collector but she did know how to move ahead. She continued that she used to do the household works of others and support her mother to live happily. She told that our expectations never end and that's why we keep on working and studying. I felt, how grown up she was at the age of playing with doll and mud. She also mentioned that she used to help in the cultivation of their farm. In each and every process of cultivation, she took a part. She even work after the school hours and even in the case of emergency her mother came to school and invites to her to help her no matter which period it is?

Suddenly, I listen to a voice of my friend, "what are you thinking about", is this about these girls ? I kept silent. Then, he asked Kunar to go as take Rs. 20 from his father as a tips, she went and took money and gave it to my friend and after that either she took that tips or not, I never asked each of them. But at the same time, I was thinking that this is not the only case of  Kanku, Kunar and Zinal but this is the story of 1000-100000 girl children who studies in Govt. Schools, Some do not even touch school campus. Let's think what we can do as part of elite or middle-class society ?

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A feelings of a Moment

Everyone in this world has feelings of emotions like love & hate no matter, how rich or poor he/ she is ? Some also referred human as an social animal. In this context - the basic difference between these two (i.e. Animal as Wild, and Animal in Social) are social one is well enough matured to hide their relationship/emotions/temptations from another social one. but the wild one is just move on and enjoyed that particular life with pride. so which one is better, in some case wild animal are better and can enjoy their emotions. If so, why God created human with such emotions, rational thinking and social bonding. There might be a greater idea behind this truth. 

No matter, what GOD wants from human but as an social animal I have emotions with logical thoughts, what I pursue and do, I do with a strong logic. Meeting you as someone was my fate, becoming her/his friend was my choice, but falling in love with someone  was in my control or beyond my control" 

I believe one day will come and i will find true love, real good relationship. and the relationship that haven't felt yet, they may take lot time, patience, but i will wait till it comes and i also strongly believe people who truly want to be together they will find each other. They never wish to change them-self into someone else for others. 

Existence of love is there in this world, not because of the lovers those who celebrates 14th February (Valentine's day), it's exist because there are Humans love to sacrifice whole life for a single smile of the other one (Partner). Love doesn't mean successful marriage. Love means that the one care enough to fight to see the other's smile. Love has no limit, you can define but its deals with caring one another, being a rational good human being. Love is just like all the good things happen in our life. Love never devastating any-life whose ever it may be, if this so, it's not a love, it's may be just a compromise or may be an attraction or may be a fluctuation of emotion at that movement of life. 

Be safe  & happy 

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My fragmented thoughts when i created this blog

I always dreaming about write something about myself, my experiences with my neighbor and society and now I am here with the grace of GOD for writing my ideology, my understandings, happenings and all. 

Now the question in my mind is !!! What will I write ? and How will I able to address the issues, that are happening in the society ? Am I able to satisfy my readers those who are spending their time for reading my post ? Will it be worth-full spending time for writing ?

After a long many thoughts, questions, chaos in mind - I found myself very relaxing when i share my feelings with my friend and my colleague. I should keep writing no matters someone like my post or not. Than, I observed that people have such thinking initial period of their writing but gradually they expertise themselves as writer or blogger. 

Suddenly, i heard a song that floats in the air, i was surprised and stocked to hear a Odia song in gujarat, that song helped me to reach to a point. The Song is  

                                   "ସମୟର ଚକ ଜାଏ ଘୁରି ଘୁରି କା, ଏଇ କଥାଟି କହି କହିକା 

                                    ଯଦି ତୋର ପାସେ କେହି ନାହି, ଚାଲି ବାକୁ ହେବ ତତେ ଏକା" -

                        " Samaya ra Chaka Jaye Ghuri Ghuri Ka, Eei Kathati Kahi Kahika, 

                                  Jadi Tora Pase Kehi Nahi, Chali baku Heba Tate Eka". 

Its a really sentimental and inspirational song that explains all about the life and how to survive in the difficult situation. The Song means "the wheel of the Vehicle named "Time" is always spinning without resting"  with a strong message " you have to stand alone, walk alone and live alone even though you don't have anybody with you in this world to take care of" . This song inspired and motivated me to write and update the blog frequently, no matters people read my blog or not. I convince myself that there are a lot of things happening in an around me, the happenings and ideas along with my positive attitude will help me to write in my blogs. 

There are lot of ideas in our mind that we never tell anybody due to a lot of hesitation and concerns but you can communicate or express by writing as its only yours. My ideas to create a blog is to capture all the ideas, intentions and jot down here for my happiness and pleasure. 

There are a lot to write but i will end this post by saying that "If anyone want/wish to create or write blog, just start doing and put your ideas into the blog no matter who will say what. Please remember, you are alone in this world and nobody is here to help you to come out with your problem but yes there are good friends and angles of GOD, who will facilitate you to know your weakness and motivate you to help yourself.  

I need your blessings and best wishes to update this blog frequently. 

I would like to thank my colleague Manikant And Suvendu for inspiring me for helping me to create this blog. 

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